This past week I spent some time with my mom and grandma. Of course, memories come up and without guiding them there often times we can remember the bad choices a person makes. The person in question is my grandfather. He has been gone for 13 years now. Bringing my children to visit my grandma only seems exacerbate the fact that he is gone. He died very young and missed out on weddings, college graduations, high school graduations and new babies. I know my grandfather was not a perfect man but when someone passes on they slowly move to a pedestal. I have such a hard time listening to anything negative my grandma might share. I know this isn’t only true for our loved ones who have passed. We all have those people in our lives that we don’t really see as humans and God forbid they should disappoint us. My sister and I have put our dad up there. This is why it makes it so hard that he left me at ballet once for an extra three hours and my poor sister almost had to walk home from gymnastics…she was five. Tell me, who have you put up there?
April, 2008
Mr.Jealousy
Dear Andrea,
My boyfriend of two months is completely jealous of my past. What’s the deal? Is this a red flag? Should I be apologetic of my past?
Sincerely,
A chick with a past…
Wow, we need to apologize for things we have done before we met someone? Unless you were involved in a criminal act against him or his family members, it seems ridiculous. I would think it was a red flag if he were following you around in his spare time and constantly checking your cell phone. Otherwise he is just being annoying. He needs to get over your past and you need to stop talking about your past because it is well, the past.Â
And We Are Updated
Its been a long and arduous winter. March is here, I am six months pregnant. Which by the way, makes me incredibly nervous to speak of being pregnant online. I have fear of someone coming after me and trying to take my baby. To combat this, I am laying low online about the pregnancy and I keep a dog with me a lot. I have three of them so it isn’t too hard. In fact if I were not pregnant and married, I would probably be the crazy dog lady. Actually, I might already be there. Even though my blogging skills on this sight have been lax, I have a lot of my own questions running through my head on parenting. Recently, my children have begun to try every nerve in my body. The constant twitching is par for the coarse now. Obviously, this does not stop me from giving advice about parenting to my friends. Because well, I am completely an expert. In reality we are all flying blind trying to figure out how to raise this next generation of children. So in terms of discipline we are trying to stop a behavior while teaching them a lesson. I guess my question is what works? What’s the currency we use to entice our children on how to do the right thing, while teaching them a lesson? Better yet, what is the lesson? I feel like many teenagers now are missing the point of doing the right just for the sake of doing to right thing. How do we prevent this from happening with our children?