Dear Andrea,
I have been dating this guy for four years now. In that time I have gained about 70lbs, which seems to bother everyone. Its safe to say I am way beyond a size 14. Wayyyy beyond. My family keeps telling me to lose weight. This seems pointless because my guy says he likes me as is. So what do you think? Should I even bother and give up the food that I love?
Sincerely,
Too fat for fun?
Dear Ms. Fun,
Yes, you need to lose weight and no, he does not like you as is. Seriously, no one wants their significant other to gain a ton of weight. Do you want him to gain weight? Probably not. Ask yourself a couple questions…Does he take you out a lot? Does he comment positively on your appearance? Do others tell you that you look great in your clothes? You are seriously lying to yourself if you think appearance doesn’t matter when you are in a relationship. The world is run on what we look like. Being overweight is a social, health, and career risk. Not to mention that if he truly cared about you, he would not want you to risk your health with extra weight. Now take a deep breath, put down the doughnut, and take a walk.
If you love your spouse, friends, family, and life – lose weight. Everyone knows that excess weight is a health risk, and obesity almost certainly equals an early death.